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LIFE | I'm Done With Multi-Tasking to Create False "Life Balance".

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Photo by: Paul Melo

Photo by: Paul Melo

 I use to pride myself as a great multi-tasker and I think a lot of us do. I've even stated it as a strength on my resume, "I can multi-task like nobodies business"! I've taken that off my resume now and I definitely do not pride myself as a multi-tasker anymore. I've realized that I'm just too busy to multi-task, if that makes any sense at all? When my son came along, it totally rocked my world and gave the terms "multi-tasking and "life balance" a whole new meaning. I'm done...through with it all...screw "false" life balance because an equal life balance DOES NOT exist. I'm done with multi-tasking because I just need to S L O W everything D O W N and I'd like to be more productive.

A day at the office for me consists of 3 computer screens with applications open on each one. I would compose an email while having a phone conversation. Oh, I got a text message...quickly glance at that and go back to the phone conversation - Oh wait, was I typing out an email? And why did I open that excel sheet that is on one of my 3 screens....hhhhmmmm? That project I was working on for that last 3 hours that should have only taken an hour...Does this all sound too familiar? 

At home, I have partial laundry going and then I run down to the kitchen and load the half full dishwasher. I perhaps walk away from cleaning altogether and check my emails and then jump over to my blog and start a post (don't even get me started on how many half-finished posts I have in my queue). Oh wait, I have to prep dinner. No actually, let me get to my bills and where can I fit in a work-out? Not enough hours in the day you say? Well, there isn't...there is always something that needs to be done, to be cleaned, to be addressed and this is why attempting "the balance" is a falsehood. 

I multi-tasked in order to achieve some normalcy and some "balance" but found myself usually not getting much done at all which created more stress and anxiety. I've discussed this idea of balance with my girlfriend Kim, and we both agree that a better way of living is trying to achieve "HARMONY" in our lives, not balance. I've found that multi-tasking has become problematic for me and after doing some more reading, it seems like I'm not the only one that thinks this way. Apparently, there are studies that show multitasking can actually kill your performance and may even cause damage to our brain?! What?! Listen, I've already lost a tonne of brain cells just from becoming a mom, I don't need to lose any more brain cells from the act of multi-tasking!

Research conducted at Stanford University found that multitasking is less productive than doing a single thing at a time. The researchers also found that people who are regularly bombarded with several streams of electronic information cannot pay attention, recall information, or switch from one job to another as well as those who complete one task at a time. Here’s the problem: Only two percent of us multitask effectively. That means the remaining 98 percent of us are running around like headless chickens in the name of “productivity." 

L I F E will never be evenly balanced. You'll have stages when it needs to be all about work, times when family will be the only thing that matters,  moments when your focus will be on your partner and not your friends and vice versa. My CEO sent over a great article he wrote the other day, talking how he manages his time. It always comes back to the 80/20 rule, which is a rule I use for every aspect of my life. Look at your work, the stuff that needs to be done at home, who you want to spend your time with and how you'd like to spend it - What are the things you need to do and like to do? Attack the 20% actionable items that will make 80% of the impact. 

So, as I sit here finishing off this half written post (I started 2 months ago and I'm itching to open an email that just came through), I've committed on finishing this today, writing straight through so I can notch this off my "to do" and move on to the next thing that will get 100% of my attention. 

20% effort - 80% impact.

xo S

PS: Another TIP for you all - TURN OFF ALL YOUR NOTIFICATIONS! Nothing is more distracting than a pop up notication that derails your train of thought. 

PARENTHOOD | Mom's Don't Always Know Best

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WOWZA, entering parenthood has been like a roller coaster ride. Actually more like a tornado, clearing everything in our paths, disappearing and leaving us breathless, confused and bewildered. Being a parent is a full-time job and yes that would be full-time for BOTH my husband and I. Like most new moms, I joined a lot of mommy facebook groups, I follow a ton of mommy bloggers on Instagram and for every 100,000 mommy bloggers out in the blogosphere, there is probably only 1 dad blogger (ok, a bit of an exaggeration but I'm trying to make a point). 

Parenting and learning to share the responsibilities with my husband was rough the first few months. Layer in sleep deprivation, dealing with Jekyll and Hyde changing emotions - My poor husband felt like he needed to walk on eggshells around me most days. It was hard for me to let go of the "mom guilt", thinking I had to do everything myself. I learned very quickly that I couldn't do it all on my own and a lot of times, my way of doing things was not always the best way and I needed a lot of help from my husband. My husband is the ROCKSTAR of all fathers and squashes all the traditional stereotypes of being a dad. Because of this, I have to say it - We have to give dads more credit and moms don't always know best. 

That saying "moms know best" is a load of crap because I actually feel like in a lot of cases, "dad knows best" and I'm totally ok with it! We've all seen that movie or that commercial where there is a man at the grocery store picking up diapers with a very puzzled look on his face. Or when the mom goes out with her friends for some girl time and cut to the dad at home with the baby looking all clueless. Sure, sometimes these moments can be funny and we have to be able to laugh at them from time to time. But both parents, not just the dad, experience these feelings of cluelessness and puzzlement. I'm just tired of these portrayals of father's that are basically telling us that the roles of mother and father are not interchangeable. BOTH parents play equally important roles in a child's life, not one more over the other.

Yes, we need to give father's more credit but we need to stop giving them credit for simply doing what they are "suppose to be doing". Like giving them praise for changing diapers. Really? You think that my husband, taking my son to the bathroom is a favor to me? Or when other people think I'm LUCKY that I can sleep in a little because my husband has decided to take on the early morning shift or has dinner ready when I return home from work. Or that he’s doing me a SOLID by taking our son to his art class while I go to the gym. Typically, mothers do all of this and we never get praised for it, can you imagine what that would look like? Absurd. 

Ladies, think about it before you say it, sometime it comes out automatically and it’s all well intended. But when we praise the fathers for doing what they are supposed to be doing, we fuel the fire and this stereotype. We are also undermining and devaluing the role father’s play in their children's lives and when it comes to their ability to care for our children. And to my husband, the rockstar dad - I won't praise you for all you do for our family, but I sure do appreciate the hell out of all you do for our family and love you to the moon and back. 

xo S

TRAVEL | Family Palm Springs Trip

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On the plane! Baby was much more difficult to deal with on this short flight compared to his Toronto flight when he was 4 months old. YIKES!

On the plane! Baby was much more difficult to deal with on this short flight compared to his Toronto flight when he was 4 months old. YIKES!

Ahhh, anyone who knows us, knows that we love Palm Springs. It's a great place to unwind, catch some rays and take in some good food. It's been about over a year since our last trip and every time we go back, a few things change. For us, this was the first trip to Palm Spring with our son!

STAY - My husband found a great spot for us to stay called "The Twist". I believe it was an old 2 level motel that was renovated. They provide long term rentals as well. Location is spot on! Located in the heart of Palms Spring and within walking distance to shopping and food. It has a full kitchen and private patios on the lower level, both very handy when you are traveling with kids. There's a swimming pool, hot tub and also a couple putting greens to practice your golf. The Bootlegger Tiki Bar is around the corner if you fancy a drink in the evening and Ernest Coffee Cafe is also around the corner so you can get your immediate caffeine fix. 

Ernest Coffee

Ernest Coffee

The only complaint I have with the place is that the walls are as thin as paper. We could hear the people above us walking around as well as the neighbor that liked to watch TV really loudly. Also, a couple things I think that were missing from the kitchen: a strainer, peeler and perhaps a couple of baking pans or ovenware. Otherwise, they provided every else!

Baby enjoying the bed at The Twist. Also color co-ordinating.

Baby enjoying the bed at The Twist. Also color co-ordinating.

Practiced putting while baby was napping, wiht coffee in hand.

Practiced putting while baby was napping, wiht coffee in hand.

Family pool time.

Family pool time.

Catching some rays. 

Catching some rays. 

EAT - It's always nice to head back to some oldies and goodies like Birba, Workshop and Cheeky's. Sad to see that Jiao is gone, but it has been replaced by a rotisserie chicken place called "The Chicken Ranch" and they serve up locally sourced chicken and chicken every way possible from sandwich to salad. We hit up Norma's at the Parker but, to be honest, it's a very OVER PRICED brunch. But if you like to be seen and want to take some good selfies and pay over $100 USD for a meal for two people, Norma's may be the brunch spot for you. 

Arranging the sofa pillows at The Parker Hotel. 

Arranging the sofa pillows at The Parker Hotel. 

Two new places I would like to bring up and totally worth checking out:

1. Reservoir at the Arrive Hotel. Firstly, we went to Reservoir twice for brunch because we liked it so much. They also do lunch and dinner. You can get a really great brunch meal for under $13 (and the food was WAY better than Norma's). I highly recommend their Egg Sandwich and Savory Crepe. They have bocci ball and ping pong in the ground, which is part of the hotel. 

Photo by Paul Melo, at The Arrive Hotel

Photo by Paul Melo, at The Arrive Hotel

Photo By: Paul Melo, at Resevoir for brunch. Family friendly with high chairs.

Photo By: Paul Melo, at Resevoir for brunch. Family friendly with high chairs.

Photo By: Paul Melo, Bocci ball lane.

Photo By: Paul Melo, Bocci ball lane.

Anyone for some ping pong?

Anyone for some ping pong?

2. SO.PA is located in the newly renovated L'Horizon.  We decided to dine here to celebrate my man's birthday. All seating is outdoors and super romantic with fire pit and stringed lights and chandeliers hung over top. They serve up a seasonal menu with a Mediterranean flare. FYI - They do not have high chairs for little wee ones, but we were in at 6 pm (their earliest reservation) and they placed us in a nice booth and provided us with extra pillows. 

SEE - If you are looking for a peaceful place to walk, hang out and perhaps have a tea, you must visit Sunnylands. in 2001, Walter and Leonore Annenberg established the Annenberg Foundations Trust at Sunnylands. What they had envisioned and hoped for the place was for it to be "a place where intimate and solution-driven meetings could take place". The additional 17,000 sq ft building and nine-acre garden was added in 2009 and the grounds are immaculately kept and in the building, they have a small gift shop and show case a small collection of art. 

Every time we leave we miss Palm Springs immediately and we can not wait to head back. Until next time! 

 

xo 

 

S

Wasting some time at the playground in the airport before our flight home. 

Wasting some time at the playground in the airport before our flight home. 

TRAVEL | Mini Seattle Road Trip

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Where does the time go? My girlfriend and I went on a mini road trip to Seattle months ago and I'm just now getting this down on the blog. I'm blaming it on #momlife. When we found out Anthony Bourdain had a tour scheduled in Seattle we jumped on planning a mini foodie weekend getaway. This road trip was also the very first time I spent any time away from my son. It was GREAT but it was also very difficult emotionally and mentally. I didn't sleep well because of my anxiety BUT, I ended up having the most amazing time. It was nice to get away and stop being MOM, even if it was just for two days. To help us kick off our little road trip, Ford Canada was kind enough to lend us a sporty 2017 Fusion! 

Let me start off by saying that the new 2017 Ford Fusion, is a sleek looking car! I loved the color they provided us, I've always been a fan of this rich burgundy color because of its sophistication. It was fully loaded with all the necessities, power everything, heated and A/C seats (have you ever tried a car with A/C seats? It feels like a cool fan blowing under your butt), rear facing camera, plus more. It feels super sporty and there's a lot of power behind the pedals. But I do have to say, the rotary gear-shift dial took some getting use to because it didn't feel natural to shift gears by turning a dial. But all in all, this sporty ride was perfect for the weekend getaway.

Image By: Ford.ca

Image By: Ford.ca

The Bourdain show took place at the Paramount Theatre (which was just a short walk away from our hotel). His show was a one hour monologue of him sharing his brutally honest views and experiences on politics, food culture and travels around the world. It really felt more like a stand-up comedy show, as he opened his "Hunger" tour set by expressing his deep, deep destain for Guy Fieri. However, he loves and respects the following: Andrew Zimmerman, Alton Brown and Ina Garten. He also despises "housemade ketchup", Asian Fusion food and is on the fence about cupcakes. He ended his show with an open Q&A with the crowd where one guy asked, "What is the worst thing you've eaten". His reply, "Fucking Johnny Rockets". 

During the tour, he also launched his new cookbook - Appetites.

During the tour, he also launched his new cookbook - Appetites.

STAY - We stayed at the Palladian Hotel, located conveniently downtown. I'd stay again, the location is ideal, located to all the shopping and the Pike Market. The celebrity paintings and pillow shams in the rooms are a funny touch, although in the middle of the night kinda creepy. We had drinks one night and breakfast one day at the attached Shaker & Spear restaurant, a sleek, cozy environment serving up west coast flare. 

EAT - For the few days we had, we were able to pack in some great places to eat. Here's the hit list:

Upper Bar Ferdinand - For pre-dinner drinks we hopped over to the Capitol Hill area and found a delightful spot called Upper Bar Ferdinand. It has a Japanese farmstead kind of feel and they focus on small batch, family owned wines, sakes and beers from all over the world. Their food menu is tight; offering cured meats, local seafood, all sorts of pickled vegetables and a nice bread selection. Pretty much a dream scenario. 

Kurt Farm Shop - Right next door to Upper Bar Ferdinand is this wonderful little ice cream shop. We were on our way to dinner so we only had only a brief moment to jump in to take a look and the guy behind the counter was kind enough to provide us with some samples of their ice cream. All the products (including cheeses) come out of a farm on Vashon Island, which by the way, is a 15 cow operation. What's not to love about that! We also fell in love with their cow, Andy which you can see in all their marketing materials. 

Image By: The Kurt Farm Shop

Image By: The Kurt Farm Shop

Bateau - Created by genius restaurateur Renee Erickson and her Sea Creatures Group, Bateau is a meat lovers dream. Probably the best piece of Filet Mignon I've had in a very long while. The restaurant space is quaint, cozy, and is also attached to its sister restaurant Bar Mesuline. Bateau promotes whole animal cooking. They receive one cattle for the week and sell off every piece and part for their menu creation. 

General Porpoise - Coffee and doughnuts, two words that complete my day. Before we made our way back home the next day, we popped into General Porpoise (which is right next door to Bateau). Their doughnuts are made with fresh eggs from La Ferme des Anes chickens and are filled with seasonal jams, jellies, custards, and creams. They also make a top notch coffee and they rotate their roasters. For you sweet hounds out there, stopping into this gem of a place is a must.

Our tummys and taste buds were happily satisfied after this trip to Seattle. With sunshine, clear roads and a sweet ride that got us home safe, our hearts were full from a nice girlie weekend away. 

 

xo

Sunny

BEAUTY | My Current Beauty Round Up

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I've been needing some change and I didn't want to do anything too drastic to alter my current beauty regime. I know there are plenty of choices out there when it comes to beauty products (we can drown ourselves in all the product out there). I tend to try new things when the "need" comes up and for me and right about now, it's the post-pregnancy do-over phase. After having a baby, so many things about my skin and body changed, which meant making some adjustments to the products I use. Here's my current beauty round up:

1. Zo Medical Oilacleanse Cleanser - I've had to put some of my professional facial treatments on hold due to my pregnancy but I'm back seeing my main gal Rita from Pure Light Laser for photofacials and fractional treatments. I've changed up my cleanser based on Rita's recommendation and I'm really liking the Zo Medical Oilacleanse Cleanser for my normal to oily skin. My skin has been going through a lot of adjusting since giving birth (the raging hormones didn't help) and this clenser has really helped with some of the light acne I was expereincing. It's also not over-drying - I have an oily t-zone and I've found other products tend to dry out my cheeks too much. 

 

2. Davines Hair Product - I've been experiencing hair loss since 3 months postpartum and I've been doing EVERYTHING since to help my hair along. I've been told as long as I am still breastfeeding, there isn't much I can do. However, I am taking iron supplements since hair loss can be due to an iron deficiency (which I had while I was pregnant). A friend of mine read my plea about my hair loss and she recommended the Davines hair product line to assist with my problem. Lucky me, I do have new baby hairs that are growing in, so I am very thankful the hair is at least coming back.

The Davines Energizing Naturaltech line product has fragrant essential oils which help to combat hormone-related hair loss and hyper-production of sebum, which may be associated with it. I wash with the Energizing Shampoo, plus conditioner and then I apply and massage in a few drops of the Superactive Serum. 

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3. Ilia Multi-Stick - This one item is a life saver. It's not called the "Multi-Stick" for nothing, because it multi-tasks for me all day and all night, 7 days a week. The one must have product in your make-up regime should has to be this magical stick. "At Last" is my favorite color and it works well with my skin tone. It's a lovely muted, dusty rose (also the name of Adam Lavigne's daughter, ha ha ha), made of organic ingredients with healing properties of Vitamin E and shea butter. I use this on my eyelids, cheeks and my lips. Seriously, it's the super all in one stick for a quick and easy natural look. 

4. Bioderma - As a new mom, I have to admit...I have days when I am simply too tired to take a shower, let alone wash my hair. This is why the Bioderma Sensibio water cleanser is a go to. For those days when I am too tired to get my ass to the sink and use my Zo Medical cleanser...I quickly take the Bioderma, splash some on a face pad and wipe, wipe done - Off to bed I go. It's a no-rinse formula, great for sensitive skin, even removes water-resistant make-up and it's fragrance and alcohol free. 

5. Di Morelli - Sometimes your face just needs a little pick me up. I've added a skin brightener to my skin routine to provide my skin that healthy glow. Di Morelli Brightener is an oil-free serum that uses lactic acid, azelaic acid and kojic acid to enhance, brighten and improve the texture of the skin. I do not use it every day, I do the every other day application because I find it a little oily for everyday use for my skin. But if you have normal to dry skin, everyday application for you would work great. 

6. Nerium Firming Cream - I've been fortunate that my post-pregnancy weight has been manageable. However, even though my "weight" is coming down, my body still does not have the "strength" I had pre-baby. I am a long ways away from firming up my flabby tummy. It's going to take a lot of exercises to get my body back into shape along with some healthy eating habits. In addition, there are some products to help with the tightening of my skin. I continue to use my oils, but I've also added a good firming cream. I've been using the Nerium Firming Cream around some of my problem areas like my tummy and thighs to help firm and tone for sleeker, more youthful-looking skin.

Wow, this is a fairly extensive list. If there are any favorites you have, I'd love to hear about them!

xo

S