PARENT HOOD | 4 Ways You Can Help Your Breastfeeding Partner
I've talked about it openly, I am not fond of breastfeeding. Not only is breastfeeding exhausting but it takes up so much of my time. Breastfed babies feed more frequently because breastmilk is more digestible compared to formula. We do top up the feeds with formula but only one bottle a day. My son is now almost 5 months old and I'm counting the days I can start weaning from breastfeeding. I plan on doing this near the 6 month mark - Hallelujah!
Now, I probably would not have lasted this long without the help of my husband (I wanted to quit breastfeeding by month 2). He has been very helpful and supportive and continues to be one of the main reasons why I continue. For those of you with breastfeeding partners, these are some things you can do to help her out:
1. Get her stuff and don't complain about it - While she is trapped under the baby for 40+ minutes PER FEED over 8+ times a day (add that up, it's 8+ hours of feeding time....ARGH)...Get her stuff. Make it comfortable for her. Bring her some ice cold water because she'll always be thirsty. Ask her if she needs some food. Maybe also make sure that she has her mobile phone with her or perhaps even set up some TV or movies to watch on a tablet. Plain and simple, just do stuff for her and ask her if she needs anything.
2. Give her a break - Yes, the boob can be magic when it comes to soothing your little one, but do not assume that the boob is the only thing that can comfort him. If mom is pumping, give her a break and do a couple feeds a day. If she is topping up with formula, OBVIOUSLY you can pitch in with a couple bottles feeds. Not only will you free up 1 - 2 hours of time for her, it's great bonding time for you and your little one.
3. Help reduce her stress - The best way to help relieve some stress for a breastfeeding mom? Try a short shoulder massage or even a foot massage. Being stuck in the sitting position while breastfeeding for long periods of time gets uncomfortable and all the muscles in her body can get really stiff.
4. Support her emotionally - If she's having a tough time with breastfeeding, listen to her. She'll probably fill your ear with her hate and frustration. Don't tell her how to fix it, just be there to listen and to provide moral support and revert back to points 1, 2 and 3.
Hope these little reminders help out. Happy breastfeeding!
Love & Light,