This is a short post, but I wanted to get this down while the thought is in my head. Having a child has truly changed a lot of things for me. The way I manage my time, my work, my relationships - My life. Another thing that has changed drastically, is my literature. I only have a certain amount of head space and a lot of that headspace is reserved for everything I need to read and consume for the office. There is very little space for "extracurricular" reading. Gone are the days of picking up a great book and taking 2 to 3 hours to myself to read.
Now, instead of picking up that book I want to read for fun (a couple that I've been wanting to read like: "Everybody Lies: Big Data and New Data..." by Seth Stephen-Davidowitz and "PAUSE - Harnessing the life-changing power of giving yourself a break", by Rachel O'Meara), I've been reading a shit tone of kids books. I've read so many, I can't even begin to list them all off. But some of the favorites in our home: Drumheller Dinosaur Dance, Goodnight Moon, L M N O Peas, and basically any book with BUGS in it, (especially ladybugs).
But let me tell you this...there are so many lessons to be learned from children books. The simplicity of the words and all the wonderful pictures that help stir the imagination. Reading to my son has really re-activated the left side of my brain, something most of us as adult loose or forget we have. One book I remember from my childhood is "The Little Prince / le petite prince", by Antoine de Saint-Exupery. I remember the images, I remember the plane, the fox, the rose and the stars. I remember the The Little Prince going on an adventure and that was about all I got out of the book. I recently watched the movie version of this book with Luca, (I've watched it 4 times from beginning to end in under a week) and I have once again fallen back in love with this story. So many life lessons that as adults we take for granted or we forget because we have been too busy "adulting". I have a whole new appreciation for "The Little Prince".
LESSONS ON LOVE
LESSONS ON FRIENDSHIP
LESSONS ON EMOTIONS
LESSONS ON LIVING
LESSONS ON GROWING UP
I guess what I'm trying to say is this - We can learn a heck of a lot from our kids. My husband and I have always said, we wouldn't know what kind of parents we would be until the baby arrives. Our kids change us - For the better. They bring out in us what we have lost and they make up for what we are not. For those days when I feel lost, tired and frustrated with Luca, I think of this quote from "The Little Prince" -
What a light bulb, ah-ha moment! When I'm frustrated with him, he's just as frustrated with me. It's basic "Empathy 101", which is something so essential to building relationships with our children, let alone with other people. So here's the solution in our household...On those days when life seems to be against us, we stop what we are doing, (reading that work email, look away from our phones, that laundry can wait), we put on some music and let ourselves go and DANCE. Stop being an "adult" for once and just, LIVE. Life is definitely funny that way. It truly never gives you what you want all the time, but most definitely what you need.