PARENTING | Tears, Tantrums and Terrific Twos!
We made it - Two years into parenting and we are still alive and still married. I do not plan on writing about every year and milestone with our little toddler...But I think age TWO needs its own special post. You still hear the term "terrible two's" go around and "oh wait until you hit age three and four" is what we hear a lot from our parent friends.
Yes, our little guy has grown leaps and bounds and every month that goes by comes with its own set of challenges. But the day he turned two, it was like a light switch turned on and he immediately becomes a different person. The tantrums are REAL and abundant. The words are streaming through like wildfire, some stick (and they are repeated like a broken record) and some you hear just once and never again. He's become more physically communicative - Asking for our hand, taking us to the fridge, pulling us up and off the sofa and pointing at everything. I look at him with amazement, how curious he is and how the smallest things give him so much joy. If you really try to look at it from their perspective...Two's are filled with tears and tantrums, but they are TERRIFIC and not TERRIBLE!
They are human, therefore they are allowed to feel frustrated, stressed, overwhelmed and confused. I know with our guy, he throws tantrums when things don't go exactly his way and it's because he wants to make his own choices and he has his own opinions - This is not a bad thing! This morning, he got so frustrated with me because he wanted to crack and whip his own eggs for breakfast. He made a fuss at the park because he wanted to walk and balance on the curbside without my help. He whines and complains every time I try rolling up his sleeves because he prefers to keep his sleeves rolled down - So there!
All these things are GREAT things, he's learning to do things himself...and yes, when he wants to pick his own clothes to wear, or when making breakfast becomes a one hour long event, it gets frustrating for us as parents. We want our kids to grow up independent and we have all these expectations of them but yet we try to rush them along with everything they do. "No, don't do it that way". No, let me do it for you, you are taking too long". "You can't wear that out". "We need to go this way not that way". Does any or all of this sound familiar?
So what do we do as parents? I don't really have an answer. I guess the only thing I can say is this - Slowing everything down is essential to keeping the mind and body calm. Besides, setting ourselves to "toddler time" may not be a bad thing. We could learn a thing of two from our terrific two year olds.